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Do I Like Me?

Do I like me? Galatians 1:10 ~ “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” Do I like me? I’ve heard it called the 8th deadliest sin...vainglory.  When we seek others approval over the approval of God two things can happen. #1- They will refuse to give it, leaving you to question if or why you’re not enough.  #2- They will give it conditionally, then take it away, leaving you to question if or why you’re not enough.  Do I like me? At some point we all should look in the mirror and ask, “Do I like me?”  So ask yourself, do you like you? The answer to this question gives insight to your relationship with your Creator, and all other relationships as well. Relationships begin with and within ourselves.  If I look in the mirror and don’t really like who I see, there’s no way I’m giving that person permission to represent me as a friend, a parent, a wife or husband, son or daughter, an employee, or any role in any relationship. Why would I?  No way! Wait!  I want relationships!  I need relationships!  So who will I be in them if I can’t or won’t be me? I’ve got it!  (...or do I?) I’ll be the person each friend needs me to be by comparing myself to their other friends, especially the ones they like most. And if I don’t know for sure, I’ll be who I think they want me to be.  I’ll be the parent they need me to be by comparing myself to other parents, especially those “poster parents” that never make mistakes. And if I don’t know for sure, I’ll be the parent I think they want me to be.  I’ll be the husband or wife that they need by comparing myself to other husbands and wives, especially those perfect marriages I see in church. And if I don’t know for sure, I’ll be the husband or wife I think they want me to be.  I’ll be the son or daughter they need by comparing myself to others or my siblings, especially the ones who they favor. And if I don’t know for sure, I’ll be the son or daughter I think they want me to be by doing whatever it takes to make them proud of me.  I’ll be the employee they need by comparing myself to coworkers that seem to get all of the approval, or continually change to fit any role they put me in. And if I’m not sure, I’ll be the employee I think they want me to be.  Yes!  I’ll be whoever I need to be in any relationship by comparing myself to others who are awesome in that relationship, especially the ones I see on social media. And if I’m not sure, I’ll be who I think they need me to be.  Do I like me? Sounds ridiculous on some level doesn’t it?  Yet how many of us can relate?  Maybe not to all, but most likely one or two of these situations.  When we don’t know or more often don’t believe that we are enough, these are the relationships we forge. Living life constantly changing who I am, seeking approval that rarely comes, never knowing who I really am.  I know.  I’ve done it most of my life.  Each relationship described above is a relationship I’ve tried to live...and failed at miserably.  There are two ways to learn a lesson, through teaching and through experience.  When we are faced with a challenge, there is usually a lesson to be learned. Once faced with a challenge, there’s really no way to avoid it.  We can try to ignore or deny it, only to face it repeatedly.  The challenge remains until the lesson is learned. I’ve learned that when we don’t begin each of these relationships with a knowledge of who we are and a belief that we are enough, we miss out on the real love and joy within them. Or worse, we set the relationship upon a destructive path full of hurt, betrayal, and loss.  I’m so grateful that we serve a God who allows us to learn hard lessons but who doesn’t leave us in our own heap of brokenness that results. He’s a God of restoration. He’s a God of reconciliation. (But that is a story for another post.) So the question remains.  Do I like me? Do you like you? If the answer is “Yes”, reach out.  I’d love to hear your story. There is power in our stories. Power to rescue others.  If the answer is an emphatic “No” or “I just don’t know”, that’s ok and here’s why.  The moment we truly seek to determine if we like who we are is the moment we begin to discover who we really are. The truth is that some of you reading this know who you are and don’t like it. Some of you have no idea who you are because like me, you’ve lived a life of constantly trying to be who others wanted you to be or who you thought you needed to be. Wherever you land the greatest news you’ll hear today is that you don’t have to stay there. There is FREEDOM.  Wherever we are, there is always a NEXT STEP.. What is your NEXT STEP?  Your NEXT STEP will bring you closer to liking who you are or it won’t. Your NEXT STEP will reveal the very real truth that no matter who you are, no matter what you’ve done, you are enough. The choice is yours to make.  Psalm 119:105 ~ “Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.”  I love this passage because it tells you that not only do you have a NEXT STEP, but that God has designed it and is trying to reveal it to you.  In the search to know who you are comes the desire to know what you’re made of. There’s a desire to know who made you. There’s a desire to know why you were created. Every desire to do something or find out something points you to a NEXT STEP.  In life, the more you tell someone who they are the less you have to tell them what to do. To know who you are is to know Whose you are. To know Whose you are reveals the truth that even in your imperfectness, you are enough. The moment you begin to see that you’re enough in spite of your mistakes, every reason to not like yourself begins to fade. Tests become testimonies. Messes become messages. Pain becomes your platform.  Ready to take your NEXT STEP? Not sure what your NEXT STEP is? Want to experience the moment when you can look in the mirror and say, “I like you!” - and mean it?  Walls come down when you know that even though you’re not perfect, you are enough.  You can!  You will!   Walking with you.  Don (Thank you for taking time to read my post.  In life, we are rescued to rescue. I do this as a writer, a speaker, and a Life Coach. If you’re ready to take your NEXT STEP but not sure what it is or how to take it, a Life Coach can provide focus & clarity. Reach out to me at knownneededloved@gmail.com and simply say “I’m ready to find my NEXT STEP!”  I’m ready if you are. Let’s go!)
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Captain Your Life With Affirmations

Seems like everyone is talking about positive visualizations and affirmations these days, and for good reason: they work! They work on the days we are feeling happiest and they work on the days we are feeling the blues.  If you haven’t jumped on the bandwagon yet, read on. I’m going to share some valuable information about how affirmations can boost your confidence, just when you need it most. How do I know? Because I use affirmations in my life, too.
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Somatic Therapy

Somatic therapy is a form of body-centered therapy that looks at the connection of mind and body and uses both psychotherapy and physical therapies for holistic healing. In addition to talk therapy, somatic therapy practitioners use mind-body exercises and other physical techniques to help release the pent-up tension that is negatively affecting your physical and emotional wellbeing.

Nourish Your Soul In 5 Easy Ways

As a Canadian living in the US, both countries may be celebrating this weekend. Some with barbecues, some with camping or trips to the cabin (with social distancing still in effect, of course).  Beyond all the food that will be consumed over the Covid-19 version of the holidays, here are five easy ways to fit in some nourishment for your soul:
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5 Reasons To Love Your Inner Critic

We all hear it—that voice in our head that feels compelled to judge every single thing we do. So annoying! For many of us, the dialogue we have with our inner critic every day is painful, frustrating, and downright degrading at times. But oddly, all that judgment grew out of our conscious and unconscious memories of fear and failure from childhood on. If you reflect on it, you may actually find one such memory. I used to call my inner critic
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Schedule Your Daily Wins or Accept Daily Defeat

Before Covid-19 hit and left us all stranded in our homes (or safe at home, I should say), pickup was an active part of my day. Every time we turned on our street, a flock of ducks would be crossing. It was uncanny. This would happen every single day, and I loved seeing them. They are creatures of habit. Being a creature of habit is a good thing... if your habits are healthy. Are you a creature of procrastination or of getting things done? I know which one I want to be! “Habits are formed by the repetition of particular acts. They are strengthened by an increase in the number of repeated acts. Habits are also weakened or broken, and contrary habits are formed by the repetition of contrary acts.” ~ Mortimer J. Adler.
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Immaculate conception

Today I visited the city monastery where I met brother Frans a member of the brotherhood of immaculate conception. I don’t follow any religion, yet always curious to see what wisdom I can gather. He told me that the word immaculate has nothing to do with Maria being a virgin or not having had sex to get pregnant. It speaks about her state of being. Maria was immaculate at her birth and therefor could give birth to God. She no longer had the curse that Eva had spread on the earth by stepping out of paradise. Where there are no ill thoughts, no ill behaviour can follow, no problems arise. Being pure at the source gives rise to a pure world.
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Be a Bridge Builder

1 Corinthians 9:16-23
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As within as without

You may see all the chaos around you that needs to be fixed. The things that are not right, that need to be different. The things you don’t have yet. The things you should have accomplished by now. You may think that you need to do something to get there. To work hard at yourself, to be a better version, to let go of your past. But let me tell you something darling. You are already worthy. There is nothing you can do wrong, you are already loved. You are powerful beyond measure. You just need to recognise your true essence. And this seems to be so difficult. We keep running for a better job, go to the gym for a better body, we keep on dating for an even better partner. Yet they are not out there to be found. All you see is a reflection of your inner state of being. Remember! Let your vibe be a product of your heart, not your environment. Be steady in who you are and the outside world will change accordingly. Be so at home, that all you will see is love reflected. May it be so💗
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Scrubbing Stains & Healing Wounds

Scrubbing Stains & Healing Wounds Scrubbing Stains: Just the other day I was helping a friend work on getting his house ready to welcome his new wife as they prepared to begin their lives together. A few months before that he had some painting done throughout the house and the painters did him no favors when they left the upstairs bathtub neglected and stained with a dark gray paint splashed on the off-white bathtub. As I set out on the task of cleaning the tub I began to scrub. I was pleased at first as I noticed some of the small stains were coming off pretty easy after only a few swipes of the scrubber. As I continued, some of the stains took 20, even 50 strokes to remove. And still others took several minutes before they were all gone. As I continued to scrub, a sweat broke out on my brow and I began to get mad at the amount of effort I was putting into cleaning the remaining stains until I looked closer and realized that what I perceived as surface stains were in fact deep scars in the surface of the tub. Gouges in the tub that only the original manufacturer would be able to restore. Now I know that some who read this might say, you can run down to your local hardware store and grab a bathtub patch kit and you’d be right. However, that patch kit would eventually fail & never be able to return or restore that bathtub to its original design and purpose. Healing Wounds: As I thought about this scrubbing, I was reminded of a time not too long ago when I went through my own personal fork in the road in a jail cell. In that cell was where I finally had to make a choice to continue to live life by my design and continue down a path of hurt & misfortune or surrender my life to the will of the original designer. That day I chose to begin an intentional walk into recovery and I began to work on scrubbing or healing the stains or wounds that my previous life of neglect had left behind. At first I became excited and encouraged as the small wounds were healed in a short time. The deeper wounds took a bit longer and a bit more intention to heal. I’ll just be real with you in sharing that there are some wounds from my past that I’m still scrubbing on today as I work on healing them.  The wounds we carry from our past leak into every one of our current relationships. The hard truth is that it’s not always our fault that we have been wounded but it is certainly our responsibility to heal those wounds. Then there are those deep, deep wounds. The ones that no amount of intention or scrubbing or time can heal. You see those wounds are so deep and so painful that only the original designer is able to return and restore me to my original design and purpose. The Designer Restores: Is your life a bathtub full of neglected stains and wounds? Maybe you’ve been able to heal some with lots of hard work and with the help of family and friends. Maybe you’re trapped deep in the middle of an addiction and the only way to make old wounds feel better is to numb out and try to forget. Maybe you’re living a great looking life on the outside but on the inside you’re wearing a deep, deep wound of rape, molestation, abuse, child loss, ruined family, job loss, overwhelming failures, or any other tragic trauma. There’s great news! Your original designer wants nothing more than to come to you and restore you to your original purpose and design. We go through life trying to make up the rules for ourselves. Have you ever tried to open a game, throw away the directions and make up your own rules on how to play it and still end up winning? It’s not possible. We simply cannot make the rules to this game of life that we did not design. But we can always go to the One who did. The One who promises to go before us and make our paths straight. The One who promises to restore what has been taken and lead us on a path towards victory. If that’s you… If you’re tired of struggling and ready to walk into the promises of peace and joy of a life lived abundantly, I’d love to hear from you. Our stories are filled with chapters of where we’ve come from, what we’ve gone through, and how we endeKoid up where we’re at. Pages of events and relationships, each with there own significant place in our book of life. Your story isn’t finished. Although you can’t go back and change the past, you can decide right now how you the next chapter plays out. What’s your next step? (Send comments or questions to Don at knownneededloved@gmail.com)
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Do You Have an Abundance or Scarcity Mindset?

How you view the kingdom can affect the opportunities you see, your expectations, and ultimately your results. You can choose to see the kingdom as a place of abundance or a place of scarcity. One is certainly more optimistic than the other! Your view of the kingdom is very different if you choose one over the other.
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I Almost Missed Out

This is my youngest daughter Sophia. I took this picture while we were spending intentional time together on our first father-daughter retreat to Colorado in 2019. We sat around the fireplace as I washed her feet, gently applied moisturizer, and filed and painted her toenails. Although a little awkward at first, taking this posture with her opened a door to a deep conversation about where life had brought us, the character of her heart, the vision I had for her future, and the blessings I intended to give her. A new and deeper relationship was taking root. I wanted to share this moment and the priceless, beautiful smile on her face because I almost missed the chance to experience it. You see in 2011 I committed suicide...or so I thought. I found myself in a losing child custody battle, stuck in my fourth failing marriage, absent of a career or direction. My unsuccessful attempts to navigate the insurmountable trauma lead to alcohol abuse that spiraled into a deep depression. On March 9th I shot myself in the stomach at point blank range with a 9 mm handgun. A 9 mm bullet leaves the gun at over 1,000 feet per second and is designed for penetration and destruction of everything in its path. I woke a week later in the hospital & met the trauma surgeon who saved my life. He shared with me something he told me he never has before. “Somebody was watching out for you”, as he pointed to the ceiling. Why am I sharing all of this? For many reasons but I’ve landed on some really big ones that I pray will speak truth and maybe plant a seed of hope in the heart of someone reading this. After 40 years of facing life on my own, hiding my mistakes, covering the scars of my poor choices, I began to believe the toxic lies of this world. The false narratives and limiting beliefs that the toughest years of our lives convict us are truth. Men, hear me on this! You’ll try your hardest to be a perfect son to your parents, but you’ll make mistakes. You’ll try your hardest to be a perfect employee at work, but you’ll mess up. You’ll try your hardest to be a perfect husband to your wife, but you’ll fall short. You’ll try your hardest to be a perfect father to your children, but you’ll screw that up too. You may wake up one day and the weight of your mistakes will try to define you under their weight. You may hear psssst...you’re an ungrateful son; you’re a screw up at work; you’re a terrible husband; you’re a dead beat dad! ALL LIES! Your value in this life and in every single relationship is entirely within you and the indisputable truth is that your actions, good or bad, do not define you and cannot strip away the intrinsic value with which you were created. Hold. On. Pain. Ends. Suicide is the second leading cause of death of those between the ages of 10 and 34 & in 2017 47,000 beautiful souls walked off of the stage of life in the middle of their song. Another 1.4 million attempted to take their own lives. I’m alive today and experiencing so many beautiful and heartfelt moments with Sophia and her brother Anthony by sheer miracle and mercy. We do life better together. If you’re struggling, reach out. Don’t miss out on the beautiful moments waiting for you in this life. Despite what you’ve come to believe about facing your own inner pain and shortcomings, sometimes you can’t just “get over it” or “suck it up” because life is hard. Truth: when life seems hardest, take heart, it always gets better. As hard as it was, I found the messages in my messes and today I strive to share the hope within my story. We are rescued to rescue. My path as a coach, author and speaker leads me to people and places that are abundant with opportunities to share seeds of hope of a life that is meant to be lived fully. I almost missed out on the pedicure around the fireplace and the immeasurable joy in this little girl’s beautiful smile that warms my heart. My still beating heart. If your heart is still beating but it’s hard to see why; if you know someone who is feeling this way; if this resonated with you in any way, let’s begin to become the change we want to see in this world. You were created on purpose, with purpose and for purpose. When you find your “why” there’s no “how” that will stop you! You are known; needed; loved.   Don Mann, Coach, Author, Speaker (417)766-4587 don.mann70@outlook.com
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Loving The Unloveable

Luke 23:34 ESV “And Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do." And they cast lots to divide his garments.” When I was about 8 or 9 years old my best friend at the time was a little girl that lived a few houses down from us. I’m not sure why we clicked but I remember it was a great friendship. One of her favorite things to do was to play with her Strawberry Shortcake dolls. As you can imagine, that wasn’t my favorite thing to do but I adored my friend so I found a way to enjoy that time with her. She loved the dolls, I loved the way the dolls smelled. Strawberry Shortcake smelled of strawberries; Blueberry Muffin smelled of glorious blueberries; but there was one doll she had that was dirty and tattered and I just couldn’t convince myself to love or even like the smell. Poor Huckleberry Pie was ready for the trash heap. One day I asked her, “This one is so dirty. Her dress is messy & torn and she smells awful. Why don’t you throw her away?” Her answer didn’t mean much to me at the time but absolutely blows my mind today. She said, “Huck is my favorite doll of them all. I love her the most!” “Why?” I exclaimed! “Because she’s so worn out and her clothes look terrible...and she doesn’t smell great, but I love her the most because in her shape I don’t think anyone else would!” In the ugliness of the cross, we find little to love about the people who killed the Savior. Yet, in the final prayer from the lips of our Lord (Luke 23:34-38), He asked God to forgive those who were squeezing the very life out of Him. Such love from our Christ is staggering. It is easy to love those we like and those who are warm toward us. However, the real test of our Christ-likeness is if we can truly love and pray for our enemies. Jesus taught that we must learn this lesson: Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you (Matthew 5:44). In their ugliness to us, our enemies often make themselves so obnoxious that no one else can possibly love them. May we, like my friend with her doll, say, "I love them the most because if I didn't, no one else would." Such love can be learned as we spend more and more time with our Lord. He taught us and then showed us how to love and pray. It's hard to love the unlovable. When we face what may become of them if we don't, suddenly the challenge is more palpable. Stay Blessed.   Don
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8 Tips For Mental Health During Coronavirus

The coronavirus pandemic has had a profound impact on the lives of people around the world, and those who don’t have the virus are not immune to the effects of COVID19. In fact, we all have to deal with the consequences of the crisis. Our habits have changed substantially. As we learn to adapt to the “new normal,” we have to remember that our mental health is as important as our physical health. Some people might be used to spending a lot of time at home, but others, especially those who also lost their jobs in the process, might be struggling. Even if we can’t see family and friends or go to our favorite restaurants, there are some pleasant activities that we can do at home. We put together a list of things that we hope can help you cope with these challenging times. Here are 8 tips for mental health during coronavirus:
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Conflict Resolution

Interpersonal conflict arises often. And almost always it is due to people: Not fully sharing their feelings and thoughts. Not feeling heard. There is a laughably simple method to solving this issue. Stephen Covey shared the technique in his iconic The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. Michael Rosenberg codified it in Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. And Chris Voss showed its effectiveness in his excellent Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. I recommend reading all three of these books to get fully immersed in their techniques, but here is the thousand-foot view: Most feel hatred for each other, because they feel unheard. For me to respect you, I don’t need for you to agree with me. But I do need for you to hear what I have to say. When I tell you my perspective (which I of course believe to be right) and you aren’t immediately convinced, then I assume that you didn’t really hear or understand what I said. If you start sharing your perspective, I will be uncompelled and unwilling to truly listen, because you haven’t been willing to consider mine. And the cycle spirals downward to hate and acrimony. There is a simple fix. I only need to prove to you that I have “heard” you. And to do that, I only need to repeat back what you’ve said (summarized, of course) until you say “That’s right!” Then you will feel heard. You will now be open to hearing what I have to say.  (Here is an experiment that proves this principle. The next time you encounter a person who is repeating themselves, stop them and ask if you can state back what they’ve already said. They will say “yes.” You then summarize what they’ve said and ask if you got it right. If they say “yes” again, then watch to see if they continue to repeat themselves. They will not.) To resolve conflict, you only need to get each person to state their deepest, darkest thoughts, and then prove that each has heard what the other has said. This can be done verbally or in writing. I far prefer the written method as it takes about ⅓ the time, requires almost no facilitation (ie- its easy to stay on script), and the action items that come out of it are impeccable agreements. If you are the facilitator, here’s how it works (the written method): Step 1:  Ask each person to write down their deepest thoughts about the other person. You say: “Open up a Doc. Please give me (the facilitator) access, but do not give access to the other person yet.”  “On the doc, write 5 categories:  Anger (present) Fear (future) Sadness (past) Joy (present and past) Excitement (future)” “In every major relationship that we have, we have feelings of Anger, Fear, Sadness, Joy and Excitement. When you think about the other person, and you focus on the Anger that you feel, what thoughts come to mind? Please state those thoughts in the following way:  Feeling. I felt anger when … Fact. I saw you doing …. (This should be only what a video camera would have seen; no opinion, thought or judgement.) Story. The thought (or judgement) that I had was ….” Here is an example: Anger:  I felt anger when I saw you walk by me the other day and I didn’t hear the word “hello”.  The thought that I had was that you purposely ignored me, and thus were really saying “screw you!” to me. As facilitator, look at both docs and make sure that they are filled out correctly. Encourage the separation of fact and judgement as much as possible. Make sure they are as specific as possible about the actions the other person did and how it made them feel. Realize that any conclusions drawn from the other person’s actions are simply stories in their head, only the feelings one has and any specific actions are facts. Make sure there are no sweeping statements or value judgements. If one or both are reluctant to say anything, which is often the case, you supply the thoughts that you might have if you were in their shoes. Be dramatic. Become an actor. Get into the role. State the thoughts as explicitly as they would appear in your own mind. Use swear words. The person will start to guide you. They are likely to say: “That’s close, but not quite it. The thoughts I have are more like …” When they slow down or don’t seem willing to go further, again state the thoughts for them. Each time you do so, it allows them to go further. Do this until each person has written down their raw, unvarnished thoughts around Anger toward the other. Once they get that right, they can usually get through Fear, Sadness, Joy and Excitement on their own. Now ask each participant to cut-and-paste the Joy and Excitement sections to the top of the doc. For the person sharing their emotions and thoughts, it is hard to feel Joy and Excitement until they have first written down their thoughts around Anger and Fear. But when the recipient reads the doc, it is best for them to first see how the sharer actually has positive thoughts about the recipient. This validates the relationship and motivates the recipient to do what is needed to repair that relationship. Therefore, it is important for the recipient to read the thoughts around Joy and Excitement first. Step 2:  Person A (the person with less power in the relationship) shares access to their doc with Person B. Person B reads Person A’s thoughts around Joy and Excitement about Person B. Person B should simply say “thank you” to Person A when she reads these thoughts. Person B then reads Person A’s first thought around Anger about Person B. You, the facilitator, then follow this script: Facilitator asks Person B: “Do you want to make Person A feel Anger and have these thoughts?”  Person B: “No.”  If the answer is “yes”, then the two should not be in relationship together. That means that one will likely need to be let go from the organization. Regardless of seniority, the person to be let go should usually be the person who wants the other to feel anger. That person will likely create toxic relationships with others as well, and eventually will have to leave the company anyway. Facilitator to Person A: “What request do you have of Person B?”  Person A: “Please do the following: ….” If Person B agrees, have Person B write down the action item (with their initials and a due date) just below the fact/judgement of Person A. The goal here is to co-create a plan so that misunderstanding and acrimony do not enter the relationship again. Person A goes first. Person B adds their thoughts. They go back and forth until they have agreed on a written plan. Verbal agreements are not impeccable. We all understand words a little bit differently. To make this agreement impeccable, one of the participants writes down the plan and the other adds their initials and a “+1” to note their agreement.  Facilitator to Person A: “Do you feel heard? Do you feel that Person B wants to have a positive relationship with you?” Person A: “Yes.” If the answer is “no”, get curious and find out why. Repeat the steps above again until the answer is “yes”. Do not move on to a second Anger item yet. Step 3:  Person B shares access to their doc with Person A. Repeat the same script as in Step 2.  Now both Person A and Person B have: Affirmed that they want to be in positive relationship with each other. Have accepted the feedback and created an action item to resolve it. Step 4: When the ah-ha moment of understanding occurs, seal it with a physical connection: a hug, a handshake, a high-5. When Step 3 is complete, there will usually be a moment of understanding and compassion for each other. When this moment occurs, seal it with a physical connection. If the two have hugged in the past, ask them to do so again now. If the most they have done in the past is shake hands or high-five, then ask them to do that now. This physical connection symbolizes the new understanding and puts a capstone on the event. Step 5:  Ask each person for feedback on the process. What did they like that you (as facilitator) did? What did they wish that you had done differently? Step 6:  Set a meeting for 1-2 weeks out between Person A, Person B and the Facilitator.  At that meeting, confirm that both Person A and B have completed their action items. This will prove to each other that there is a real desire for a positive relationship. Do Steps 2-4 on the remainder of issues identified under Anger and Fear for each person. In my experience, when two people, who previously felt hatred towards each other, have shared their thoughts (and been heard) around all five of the basic emotions they feel toward the other, the two create an understanding and respect for each other, if even they still do not agree with the others’ positions. Please let me know if you experience something different.
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What we know about COVID19

With the cases of COVID-19 now increasing exponentially worldwide, it is becoming essential that we are prepared here in New Zealand, both as a community and as individuals. The current pandemic data is demonstrating a virus that is very contagious and very easily spread. It is causing severe illness in many cases, especially in the elderly and in those with underlying lung disease. However, it is also affecting the young, the fit and the healthy. What are we dealing with? SARS-CoV-2 is a highly infectious and potentially deadly subtype of coronavirus that causes a respiratory disease called COVID-19.  Over the past months and weeks, the virus and corresponding disease have been compared to the influenza virus and the seasonal flu. However, as time progresses there appears to be significant differences between this and the common seasonal flu. More Contagious Than the Flu With an estimated R0 (the expected number of cases directly generated by one case in a population where all individuals are susceptible to infection) between 1.4 – 6.49 and a mean estimate of 3.28[1], SARS-CoV-2 is much more infectious and spreads much faster than the seasonal flu, which has a median R0 of 1.28[2]. More Deadly Than the Flu The so-called case fatality rate (CFR) of SARS-CoV-2 is estimated to be at around 2%[3], meaning that an estimated 2% of people diagnosed with COVID-19 will succumb to it. In comparison, the CFR of seasonal influenza is estimated to be around 0.1%[4], this means SARS-CoV-2 is estimated to be about 20 times more deadly than the seasonal flu. Possibility of Severe Symptoms An estimated 15 – 20% of infected individuals suffer from severe symptoms[5], including pneumonia, acute lung injury and cardiac complications. No Treatment, No Vaccine, No Immunity As SARS-CoV-2 has only recently emerged, there is no well-studied treatment for COVID-19 and more research is needed in order to treat infected people efficiently. Likewise, there is no vaccine for SARS-CoV-2[6] and the development of such a vaccine will take a significant amount of time. With no vaccines and no prior immunity, anyone is a susceptible target for infection. While most infected people will only suffer from mild symptoms, this lack of herd-immunity can lead to severe illness in a significant amount of at-risk individuals. Exponential Growth Due to the lack of immunity, the entire human population is the upper limit of possible infections. And although exponential growth always seems slow at first, it can lead to unfathomably high numbers in a rather short time. With the numbers of infected people currently doubling in a matter of a few days in some areas[7], medical systems have become overloaded, leading to high numbers of fatalities and finite resources. What can we do? Taking steps to both reduce and prevent transmission between individuals and optimising our own immunity is paramount. With a viable vaccine is potentially another year away, the key to managing this pandemic is to reduce local spread. The following list of actions (based on recommendations from countries where local spread has already occurred), have been ordered from ‘Easiest to Implement’, to ‘Most effective but most imposing’. Don't panic, but be alert. Wash your hands often and practise good cough and sneeze etiquette. Try to touch your face as little as possible, including your mouth, nose, and eyes. Practice social distancing, no hugs and kisses, no handshakes, no high fives. If you must, use safer alternatives. Do not attend concerts, stage plays, sporting events, or any other mass entertainment events. Refrain from visiting museums, exhibitions, movie theatres, night clubs, and other entertainment venues. Stay away from social gatherings and events, like club meetings, religious services, and private parties. Reduce your amount of travel to a minimum. Don't travel long distances if not absolutely necessary. Do not use public transportation if not absolutely necessary. If you can work from home, work from home. Urge your employer to allow remote work if needed. Replace as many social interactions as possible with remote alternatives like phone calls or video chat. Do not leave your home if not absolutely necessary. ‍
Peace of mindFear/anxietyHolistic Health & WellnessStress Management

Transforming Illness to Awaken Your Inner Healer

Unlocking Wellness Through Mind-Body Connection
Somatic healingSpirit-Mind-Body Integrative HealthChronic disease preventionIntegrative Health & WellnessChronic Pain Management

Eat Like A Baby To Enhance Digestion

I was having a conversation with my best friend the other day about digestion and hunger cues and she mentioned how those were so evident in her newborn baby.He eats less at night, eats slowly, naturally stops when he’s full and gets annoyed when there are distractions while he eats. (I thought was especially funny to think about a baby swatting away a toy while attached to a bottle.) The thing is, we all did this once too. These cues were once very natural for us. But they were conditioned out of us as we got older and became more accustomed to this fast-paced world we live in where everything must be done at super-sonic speed, including mealtime. However, it’s not how our bodies were designed to optimally function. When we eat quickly we put ourselves into a state of stress, and a stress state actually shuts down the digestive system. This hinders the digestion process, which can lead to a whole host of issues, such as bloating, gas, constipation, diarrhea, fatigue and lagging energy. The best way to counteract this constant stress state is to enjoy your meals in a relaxed state by eating slowly. Savor your food without distraction (just like my friend’s baby). Get intimate with the taste, texture, aroma and visuals of the meal. This will not only increase your pleasure and satisfaction of the food, but also will enhance the digestive process. And just like a baby, slowing down and paying attention to your food will lead you to stop naturally when you’re full and decrease the likelihood of overeating. Did you know it takes the brain 20 minutes to catch up to the stomach? So what happens then if you eat an entire plateful of food in just 5 minutes? The answer is you probably end up eating more than your body needs because your brain didn’t have the chance to the register the food in your stomach. If you think you have issues with overeating or often find that your stomach is distended after your meals, get rid of distractions while eating. Becoming more fully present with your food will help you slow down and more readily read your body’s hunger and satisfaction cues. These are just a few tips that I hope can help you get more in tune with your digestive process. For more strategies, check out my FREE VIDEO where I share 3 bio-hacks to enhance digestion and increase energy…without changing what you eat! Get the FREE video
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Changing Habits: What’s Your Why?

When contemplating changing your habits or lifestyle, the most important question to ask yourself is: WHY? Why am I doing this? Why do I want this? There are as many different and right answers to this one as there are people. And your answer is the quickest way to get to what lies beneath the desire and discover what’s at the core. It’s also the best way to keep the motivation going when changing your habits because when you’re clear on your WHY, it can pick you back up if your enthusiasm starts to wane. Now there are Why(s) when eradicating an unhealthy habit and there are Why(s) when implementing a new healthy habit, and both can be uncovered with a few what and when queries. To get you started on the digging process, grab a journal and a pen, and answer these questions. Use whichever question fits your current situation, repeat it to yourself, ideally aloud, and sit with it for a moment. Then write down whatever bubbles up. 1. What purpose does this habit serve? / What purpose do I want this habit to serve? 2. What are my reasons for wanting to change/implement this habit? 3. When I give in to this habit, how do I honestly feel afterward? / How do I want this habit to make me feel afterward? 4. What imbalances am I causing with this habit? / What imbalances am I trying to fix with this habit? 5. What does my life look like when this habit is no longer a part of it? / What does my life look like when this habit is part of my regular routine? Once you’ve discovered your Why(s), repeat them often to yourself. You can even try posting your Why on your bathroom mirror, at the top of your computer screen or on your nightstand, where it can serve as a constant reminder of the commitment you’re making to yourself and your health. My personal why for leading a healthy lifestyle is freedom and the ability to do what I love. I believe the body is our vehicle in life to accomplish our soul mission and if the body isn’t healthy or properly functioning, we can’t show up to our fullest capacity in any area of our lives. So what’s your Why?
Holistic Health & WellnessMindsetHealthy habits

Finding Your Niche

The initial time I became engaged in online coaching, I reached a number of other people. A lot of these people were fully on their way to establishing an online coaching business. “So far, so good”, I realized to myself.   It spun out that a lot of the individuals I was rubbing shoulders with digitally were mostly walking the misguided path. They had all the misguided views on how to start and run a strong online coaching business.   In fact, for the longest time, I battled with my own coaching business because I incorporated a number of their theories.   One of the most perplexing and harmful ideas that I subscribed to be the idea that I should recruit as many clients for one-on-one coaching. In speculation, this made sense because, let’s face it, if you want to learn from someone, the best way to do so is to have that person right in front of you.   While that person is talking, you can engage that person and ask questions that mean I lot to you.   Maybe there are a lot of materials that make little sense to you. Perhaps this person is skipping certain essential ingredients.   Whatever the claim may be the fact that they’re in front of you enables you to propose questions in real-time so they can commit with you in such a way that you pick up the knowledge that will take your expertise to the next level. All this is reasonably easy to grasp.   However, the obstacle is individuals will not seek one-to-one coaches unless that person is worth seeking. I anticipate you can understand that. I hope the value premise is clear with the announcement I just said.   Think about it. If you are just some arbitrary person who keeps suggesting to himself and to anyone who would bear to listen that you are an authority, do you think you will be perceived as an expert? Chances are you won’t.   You have to pay your dues. You have to write lots of books. You have to get interviewed a lot. You have to grow into some sifting of minor media image. You have to establish a name in your industry.   A bunch of these actions take relatively a dose of creation, focus and inclination. Yes, they likewise take a lot of time, and this is how you establish a premium brand.   Once you have arrived at that stage, suddenly it makes sense to advertise yourself in terms of one-to-one coaching. Prior to that moment, it doesn’t produce a whole lot of sense because people couldn’t care less.   They’d rather read your book. They’ll give you a shot that way. Maybe they’ll watch a video that you shot a long time ago.   However, in terms of paying up to $300 per hour for one hour of Face Time, I don’t think so. Unfortunately, there are so many other people who think like me.   Do yourself an enormous favor. Develop a premium brand first.
PurposeMindsetFocusFocus and concentration

Journey to the End of the Race Podcast

Today I'm releasing my first podcast series called Journey to the End of the Race, a six-part exploration of the struggle, wisdom, and gratitude that come from facing the ultimate bad news. In it, I interview my friend & former client Todd Anderson. Not many people have access to the clarity and confidence that come from facing mortality. Todd Anderson does. Listen to his story. Please listen to the episodes on one of the following platforms: - Website: https://www.journeytotheendoftherace.com/ - Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-to-the-end-of-the-race/id1488706173?fbclid=IwAR3edYljqS6JB0dGnw_31IYFGfvqAHNL7Ocw45npQZzMf-rFyQKpLRfiPEA - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0OENfOlbZ73jnij0unRwda?fbclid=IwAR3Iv5NqXsR0s4paS6ybyJT4Pa5dK6ViW1y2L6DxAhOxulgVsIh0QzG68FA - Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/storyworthy/journey-to-the-end-of-the-race?refid=stpr&fbclid=IwAR2n03U6CXMijt0T0lfIUvWjlEwOnc1E3oLk63dd9QTVI2-6QHzmRRWatag - Google: [coming soon]
Work-life balanceEmotional wellbeingMental health & wellness

Integral Ethics for a Better You

In this article, I will provide a brief introduction to the practice of integral ethics. One way to define the word “integral” is as “comprehensive.” Therefore, the benefit of taking an integral approach to the ethical dilemmas we may face is that an integral approach allows us to honor the complexity of these situations. When we make decisions that embrace and honor complexity, we are more likely to experience positive outcomes for both us and the other people in our world. The integral ethical-decision making model and process that Dr. Tim Black and I developed, with guidance from Ken Wilber, facilitates the wise embrace of complexity by parsing ethics into four key domains that correlate to the interior and exterior of reality, as well as its individual and collective aspects. Analyzing ethics in this way gives us ethics itself, as well as morals, behaviors and laws. The relationship between these four domains is perhaps best understood with the assistance of visuals, as follows:
Integral ApproachLeadership

Voice Dialogue for Healing Our Narcissistic Wounds into Wholeness

A.H. Almaas identifies 18 "I-states" or "ego-states" associated with healing narcissistic wounds. This is the kind of work we need to do in order to take care of the shadow aspects, projected outward, that result in, for example, authoritarian political characters appearing on the global scene in leadership positions. We can use "voice dialogue" to enact whichever of these I-states seem most relevant to our experience at the moment, giving us a kind of map of the territory and a way to navigate it towards wholeness. Here are the 18 I-states: "fake self"; "hard self"; "wounded self"; Betrayed self; raging self; pointless self; lost self; shameful self; rejected self; spacious self; self-active self; depressed self; helpless self; trusting self; ideal self; loving self; essential self or unique self. In voice dialogue what we do is "speak" TO that self and then AS that self, which helps us to fully accept it. Once fully accepted, a difficult sub-personality will usually "let go" on it's own. With self-states that are "true" and healthy, we don't need to let go of them. “That which is true can never be lost”. References: A.H. Almaas,
Conscious leadershipEmotional disorders and traumasIntegral ApproachHero's journeyDifficult emotions

Integral Meditation in Holoscendence: Accessing Primordial Awareness for Waking Up, Cleaning Up, Growing Up, and Showing Up

In this revolutionary breakthrough process, already tested with virtually thousands of people of different professional and cultural backgrounds, you will experientially learn how to use multiple dimensions of consciousness (including that of pristine primordial awareness) to foster Waking Up, Growing Up, Cleaning Up, and Showing Up in a profoundly integral and viscerally-felt fashion. Integral Meditation is a set of powerful (and virtually unknown, though sometimes treasured in secret inner traditions) contemplative techniques which allows you to discern, objectify, and unify numerous processes within: • your
Integral ApproachMindfulnessHoloscendenceMeditationIntegral Meditation

It’s NOT All In Your Brain! What YOU Can Do About Feeling Depressed…

You might be feeling “down in the dumps” lately, even like you have “lost your old self”. You may have noticed that you are sleeping quite a bit less than you used to, or are sleeping a fair bit more. Your eating patterns might have changed. You might be finding it harder to concentrate at work, or that you are more irritable with loved ones. You might even have noticed that you have lost your sense of hope for the future, or are feeling helpless about your present circumstances. When you are experiencing a group of symptoms like this, you might be dealing with depression. In addition to consulting with your trusted primary care physician, you can benefit from educating yourself about behavioral, psychological and interpersonal changes you can make in order to feel better again. Change is possible. You can feel well. I can help. Where Does Depression Come From and What Can You Do About It?
Depression

What is Integral Psychology?

Integral Psychology—and Integral Psychotherapy, being interrelated fields of inquiry and practice—aim at integrating, healing and deepening our connection with body, emotions, mind, spirit as they present themselves in self, culture, and nature, utilizing a diverse yet profoundly unified set of methods, tools, and practices. The term “Integral” here means “comprehensive,” “holistic,” “wholeness-based.” The most known version of both Integral Psychology and Integral Psychotherapy nowadays is outlined in the works of Ken Wilber, the founder of Integral Metatheory (such as in his book Integral Psychology as well as various chapters and articles), and his colleagues (see, e.g., Elliott Ingersoll and David Zeitler’s book
Spiral DynamicsIntegral ApproachIntegrative Health & WellnessIntegral MeditationHoloscendence

What is Holoscendence?

Holoscendence is an Integral meta-practice of therapy, shadow work, psychological and contemplative development, spirituality, and multidimensional communication. It was developed by Sergey Kupriyanov, MD, Ph.D. in Medicine, a Helsinki-based therapist with 40 years of professional experience, and is taught to students in Finland and Russia (where it is co-taught by Eugene Pustoshkin, a clinical psychologist from St. Petersburg). Holoscendence is based on seamlessly uniting nonordinary (nonlocal and timeless) dimensions of consciousness, being and communication with more ordinary (local and temporal) states and ways of interaction. It fully enacts body, mind, spirit, and their subtle dimensions in self, intersubjective relationships, and nature. It is a way to practice heightened states of consciousness dialogically, during daily mundane activities, which brings forth radical transformations to one's self-sense, personal and professional relationships, and a general way of life.
Integral MeditationHoloscendenceSpirit-Mind-Body Integrative HealthIntegral Approach

What is Integral Meditation?

Integral Meditation
HoloscendenceIntegral MeditationMeditationIntegral ApproachMindfulness

How to get the most of your wearable device data

Our well-being depends on a variety of factors. We all have to deal with challenges, and it is important to ask for help when we are struggling. If you are experiencing issues with nutrition, stress, or sleep, working with a professional guide can be a life-changing experience. Innovative data-driven coaching is the new frontier.
Mental health & wellnessHealthy habitsSleepHolistic Health & WellnessSpirit-Mind-Body Integrative Health

Mental Health Awareness Month - Join the movement!

Mental health is essential to our wellbeing. At some point, we all have to deal with challenges and fears that can affect our mental health. In addition, stress, anxiety, and burnout are common issues in our society. They impact our quality of life and may also affect our physical health in the long-term. Mental Awareness Month is an important occasion to stop and think about your mental health and the mental health of people around you. Unfortunately, our society is not kind to people who struggle with mental health—prejudice and discrimination still affect the way we talk and deal with this topic. This is why today, and every day, we need to get involved to move the conversation forward and fight the stigma. So, how can you help? Stay informed and educate others.
Mental health & wellnessEmotional wellbeingWellness and wellbeingDifficult emotionsPeace of mind

How do high achievers in Silicon Valley deal with stress and anxiety?

Many of our clients, at awarenow, are businessmen and entrepreneurs who deal with a great amount of stress and anxiety on a daily basis. We have been interested in talking to successful tech entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley to know how they manage difficult emotions. Our CEO Alina met with Rostislav Shorgin, a tech entrepreneur, who runs his own hedge fund. They had an interesting conversation that touched many different subjects, from the concept of fulfillment to effective routines and mindfulness. About fulfillment
Work-life balanceWork-related stressHealthy habitsStress ManagementFear/anxiety

Meta-trends to take notice of for 2020

1. Soft is the New Hard/Rest is the New Activation.
Holistic Health & WellnessWork-life balanceChange managementStrategic thinking/planningEvolutionary leadership

The need for lifestyle changes: grim statistics and actionable steps

According to the
Lifestyle managementChronic disease preventionHolistic Health & WellnessPreventative health strategies

How to evaluate your environmental impact

Life Cycle Assessment (LCA) is a tool that is used to evaluate the environmental impact of a product or service, taking into account the entire life cycle and it consists of four stages: The first phase defines the objective of the evaluation, which parts of the product life cycle to analyze and the specific times and criteria.
Nutrition and meal planningToxinsAwarenessHolistic Health & Wellness

Mind-body approaches that help with sleep

Sleep is much more than a way to recharge yourself—it is an essential component of a healthy and happy life. Sleep ensures that your body and mind work properly. Unfortunately, people are now sleeping less than they did in the past, and sleep quality has decreased. Insomnia is common in the United States: About 60 million Americans have this disorder. Sleep deprivation affects both your physical and mental health, and people with mental health issues are more likely to have sleep disorders. Traditionally, healthcare professionals saw insomnia as a symptom of psychiatric disorders, but studies show that insomnia may raise the risk of developing mental health issues because it impairs thinking and emotional regulation. Insomnia is not just a factor that contributes to psychiatric disorders—it can also affect physical health. Getting less than 6 hours of sleep, in the long term, makes you more likely to die of heart disease or develop a stroke, and sleep deprivation weakens your immune system. If you suffer from insomnia, you can try these mind-body approaches:
Mental health & wellnessHolistic Health & WellnessPeace of mindInsomniaLifestyle management

Understanding and achieving sexual health

How would you define sexual health? For many people, sexual health is considered simply as a sexual life without violence, diseases or unplanned pregnancies — but from a holistic point of view, sexual health is much more than that. The American Sexual Health Association (ASHA) extends the definition to additional layers including the ability to embrace and enjoy sexuality, the respect of sexual rights, access to sexual health education and care, and the ability to talk freely about sexual health. The definition of the World Health Organization includes a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality, a positive and respectful approach to sexuality, the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, and the respect of sexual rights.
IntimacyMind-body connectionInsomniaBody imageFamily Dynamics

awarenow bookshelf | The Future of the Mind by Michio Kaku

Michio Kaku is a physicist, a charismatic popularizer of science and its future potentials and a leading figure in the string theory. In the previous years, I have enjoyed his numerous videos, especially where he described what an 11th dimension means.
Mental health & wellnessMindfulness

awarenow bookshelf | review of Otto Scharmer’s “Theory U”

Otto Scharmer’s
Strategic thinking/planningConscious leadershipMindfulnessWellness and wellbeingEvolutionary leadership

What is holistic health & wellness about?

In a time when we’re so busy, and there’s so much pressure on us, it’s more critical than ever to calm our mind, increase our self-awareness, and prioritize our wellbeing. These days you probably hear a lot about mental health, that, of course, affect both men and women. However, men may be less likely to talk about their feelings and seek help. Recognizing the five signs below is the first step towards getting treatment and living a better life: 1. An extreme change in personality 2. Uncharacteristic anxiety, anger, or moodiness 3. Social withdrawal and isolation 4. Lack of self-care or risky behaviors 5. A sense of hopelessness or feeling overwhelmed If you recognize any of these warning signs or see these behaviors in the people in your life, please contact us or a trusted certified psychotherapist. We can match you with guides who can help by personalizing a treatment based on evidence-based holistic health & wellness approaches. Why are we aiming to provide people with easy access to holistic health and wellness professionals?
Spirit-Mind-Body Integrative HealthMental health & wellnessMindfulness

Exercise your attention with mindfulness

Scientific research
MindfulnessFocusMeditationAwareness

Take Mindful Awareness Breaks from Your Story

Authored by Daron Larson, mindfulness awareness coach.
MindsetFocusAwarenessMindfulness

Male personal development — resources

Most of our customers are tech executives in their 25s-40s, who are interested in incorporating a more holistic approach to their lives and businesses. Many of them believe that exploring their feminine side is part of their spiritual growth. Our awarenow guides work with them to support them in their self-discovery and self-mastering journey.
Male empowerment

Spirituality meets business. Lessons learned by Bryant Gallindo.

“Who am I?” The quintessential question that spirituality helps a person answer. You may think it a simple answer. For me, I could say I am a first-generation Mexican-American that is Ivy-League educated, a Conscious Capitalist, Queer, and from Los Angeles, California. But all of these would simply just be
Conscious leadershipSpiritualityMindfulness

Bryant Galindo: Self-awareness and building a strong collaborative culture in your startup

Bryant Galindo is an awarenow coach, conflict resolution expert and co-founder of CollabsHQ.
LeadershipConscious leadershipWellness and wellbeing

Complimentary emotional support for people affected by the fires

California is burning, and unfortunately, the trend doesn’t seem to stop. In the last years, California has been impacted by several deadly wildfires. In the fall of 2017, the Golden State was devastated by two fires: the Nuns fires affected the wine country, and the Thomas fire impacted the Ventura and Santa Barbara counties. These fires were considered, respectively, the most destructive and largest wildfires in California’s history. But things got worse in 2018. Unfortunately, the Camp Fire gained the title of the deadliest fire in California’s history. The Camp Fire started on November 8th in Northern California. It killed more than 70 people, and more than 10,000 homes were destroyed. Together with the Woolsey fire, it burned more than 200,000 acres.
Emotional wellbeingEmotional disorders and traumasHolistic Health & Wellness

Got affected by the wildfires? Get complimentary emotional support ❤

At awarenow, we understand the importance of emotional and psychological help, especially in difficult times. This is why we’re putting together a
Emotional disorders and traumasMental health & wellnessWellness and wellbeing

Feeling safe, connectivity and unresolved trauma

This Q&A blog post features Danny Morris, our dear awarenow guide who has a unique coaching approach and provides a profound help and relief to people with awareness and other custom coaching requests.
Wellness and wellbeingMindfulnessSelf-optimizationSomatic healing

Paths of Waking Up and Growing Up as Vectors of Growth to Greater Wisdom and Joy

There are two foundational vectors of consciousness and self-development: vertical and horizontal. Vertical Development is studied by developmental psychology. The psychology of child development studies stages of consciousness and selfhood formation in children. The study of Adult Development investigates the trajectory of an adult personality through the stages of increasing maturity of meaning-making and self-sense.
Integral ApproachSpiritualitySelf-optimizationMindfulness

Healthy Shame

Let’s define guilt as feeling bad about something I have done and shame as feeling badly about who I am being (1).
Holistic Health & WellnessSomatic healingWellness and wellbeing

awarenow bookshelf | Colin Wilson: Collected Essays on Philosophers

In Colin Wilson: Collected Essays on Philosophers, edited by Colin Stanley, with an introduction by John Shand, meaning perception, existential intensity, and overcoming our alienation from power consciousness, Colin Wilson’s optimistic existentialism, an integrally-informed view is explored.
Integral ApproachMindfulnessMindset

Dharma Inquiry

The following are questions I find commonly useful in helping people gain greater insight into their unique life path and dharma:
Self-optimizationAwarenessMindfulness

Towards a Language of Well-Being: A Generative Inquiry

It is commonly recognised that language is a reflection of culture and the reality portrayed by that culture. The reverse of this relationship, despite being less often considered, is no less impactful. The ways language is used serve to create patterns of thought, beliefs, behaviours, cultures, and, ultimately, realities. Wittgenstein claimed that the limits of our language are the limits of our world (68). Though the veracity of this claim continues to be debated, it provides insight into our reliance on language. At the very least, the omissions of a given language make the ideas it fails to address less accessible and communicable; it’s most rehearsed pathways preference certain destinations over others.
Wellness and wellbeingMindfulness

The Most Important Book You’ll Read All Year

Scientists have discovered a revolutionary new treatment that makes you live longer. It enhances your memory and makes you more creative. It makes you look more attractive. It keeps you slim and lowers food cravings. It protects you from cancer and dementia. It wards off colds and the flu. It lowers your risk of heart attacks and stroke, not to mention diabetes. You’ll even feel happier, less depressed, and less anxious. Are you interested?
Wellness and wellbeingHealthy habitsMindfulness

awarenow bookshelf | Immunity to Change

You will be glad to realize that you already know exactly when to apply the “learning platform” that Kegan and Lahey have presented in this book.
MindsetMindfulnessWellness and wellbeingLeadership

Positive Peace Conference: Keynote Daniel Brown

Integrative Psychotherapy is one of the most advanced therapy approaches, and it can deliver transformative results in a pretty efficient way, that’s why we represent it on our telewellness platform. We are very passionate about educating about integrative approaches and making them easy to access. Because they work and sometimes they work much faster than more of old-school therapeutic approaches.
MindfulnessMental health & wellnessAwareness

Alternative strategies for panic attacks

A panic attack is a sudden, intense feeling of fear or anxiety. Symptoms include a racing heart, sweating, and difficulty breathing. People who experience panic attacks may feel that they are losing control or even dying. Conditions such as stress and anxiety can lead to panic attacks. Panic attacks originate in the amygdala, which is also known as the fear center of the brain. When a panic attack occurs, the sudden increase in adrenaline, the hormone involved in the fight-or-flight response, causes the sensation of immediate danger.
AnxietyFear/anxietyPanic AttacksWellness and wellbeing

The power of partnerships

“Nowadays it takes a mindful collaborative effort to serve our dearest community in the best way possible. That’s why we’ve teamed up with Headway to bring their community of coaches and clients into the awarenow family”, said Alina Trigubenko, CEO of awarenow.
Mental health & wellnessRelationship coaching

Altered Consciousness, Mysticism, Drugs and Dreaming

As Americans become more and more drawn to traditional and integrative methods of healing as well as in altered consciousness, I believe we are poised to embrace Embodied Imagination (EI) as a healing practice as well.
Mental health & wellnessEvolutionary leadershipMind-body connectionEmbodimentPlant medicine integration

8 holistic strategies to cope with burnout

In our society, the word “busy” is considered a badge of honor. Many people keep busy because they want to show others that they have a fulfilling in life, but in many cases, the image they try to convey is far from reality. People with jam-packed schedules who spend long hours at work may experience high levels of stress, exhaustion — and burnout.
Work-life balanceChronic disease preventionMind-body connectionHolistic Health & WellnessBurnout
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